I'm Sorry

Why is that so hard to say? I believe that if we could learn how to say those simple words our marriages would suffer a lot less grief. God makes it fairly clear that we are not to let the sun go down while we're angry and saying I'm sorry is the first step to reconciliation. The biggest barrier we face with saying I'm sorry is our own pride. I know this from experience. If we would just set aside pride we could build the type of marriage that God desires us to have. I know that this is all easier said than done but it is well worth it. I said the words "I'm sorry" to Leah today and a weight was lifted off of our relationship, a heaviness that was putting a huge wedge between us. Saying "I'm sorry" allowed us to bridge the gap that we were facing. I had to swallow my pride and take the first step towards resolution. So try it sometime, saying your sorry, it's not as hard as you think. When it comes to the most important relationship in your life it is all worth it.

To Flirt or not to Flirt

"A little flirting doesn't hurt." I've heard this from others and I've thought this as well but is this true or am I just lying to myself. How easy is it to go fr0m flirting to infidelity? I am happy to say that I don't know and that I don't want to find out. Whether you mean to or not flirting can and does hurt, if not controlled you WILL eventually cross the line. Maybe not the first time but the more you do it the more comfortable you will get and the easier it will be to cross the line. We all know the difference between "friendly and flirty" so do yourself and your spouse a favor and keep it friendly. In the long run you will reap the benefits of this type of fidelity. If you must flirt, flirt with the person you have committed yourself to : your spouse. If you put the same effort into your spouse as you do in someone else you would have a beautiful marriage. Don't settle for the lie that the grass is greener in someone else's pasture because it isn't.

The Facade of Friendship

Can a man and a woman be friends without any sexual tension??? This profound question was examined in one of my favorite movies starring Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan "When Harry Met Sally". I believe it is a very relavant question especially in marriage. I'm not talking about aquaintances I'm talking about friendship which commands a higher level of intimacy. Can a married man or woman have a close relationship with someone of the opposite sex that is not their spouse. I say no, not because it is not possible but because you put yourself in a very tough situation. I am a firm believer that your spouse should be your best friend. Your spouse should be the person that knows everything about you. They should be the first one you want to call when something great happens or even when something bad happens. If this is not the case in your relationship than you really need to take a hard look at your relationship and take the steps necessary to remedy this problem, and it is a problem. Don't get caught up in the facade of friendship because it will lie to you. It will tell you that "this person understands me more than my wife or my husband never listens to me". These are lies and need to be seen as such. The grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence but that is not the case. Marriages take work, no one said it would be easy. It takes sweat and tears to see it through to the end. If you take it one day at a time and focus on the one with whom you made your vows than you can complete the journey that you set out to complete when you said "I DO!!!"